tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-879844933286843280.comments2009-02-09T09:55:23.646+08:00Life as a Mommy in China~amy joy~http://www.blogger.com/profile/09209875730039807566noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-879844933286843280.post-38478257131347715942009-02-09T09:55:00.000+08:002009-02-09T09:55:00.000+08:00Hi Amy... i found your blog while looking for "pha...Hi Amy... i found your blog while looking for "phantom cries" online, since yesterday i found out this thing is true and i'm not actually going crazy.<BR/>I have a baby too... he's only seven weeks old, and i understand exactly what you are going through.<BR/>the only thing that keeps me from going insane is the thought that this phases where you dont sleep and do anything besides taking care of him will end at some point.<BR/>I share your frustration... it is desperating, and to be honest, i now understand why there's moms who abandon their babies and do such things. it is HARD work! Nobody tells you how hard... <BR/>You know, the amazing thing is, every day that passes, is one more day that they grow and they will never be the same again. That's what i tell myself: to enjoy him while he's so small, and get the most of it... even feeling absolutely exhausted every day, even thinking of how much i wish i could take a short vacation away from him... but what keeps me going is, that i am all he needs to live. i am his source of love, heat, food, diapers :) etc. <BR/>and, the best part is, that this boy will love you so much for the rest of his life. <BR/>dont feel guilty because you want to do other things. this is normal!!!<BR/>i would advise you to look for other moms of small babies to chat with wherever you're living... this makes the struggle so much easier, to know that other peopl suffer as much (and sometimes even more) as you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-879844933286843280.post-59871933195404801042009-01-14T11:28:00.000+08:002009-01-14T11:28:00.000+08:00You are so funny! This post made me smile. I felt ...You are so funny! This post made me smile. I felt the same way all the time, like you are telling here and on the later post. We learn to change things on the way. Children never respond to our expectations, at least not completely (and luckily!). So, we adjust. I've learned that even more on the later years (I mean, my daughter is three and something, and just after her twos I started really learning this). I learned a little, just a little, to embrace changes without frustration, to let her be who she is without trying to mold her. And the most important thing, due the age of my child, not falling into despair and yelling at her (oh, yes, I sometimes did, and I hate it). My child is so different from I was expecting or wondering... She is more (much more) talkative, expansive, liberal and ever so shy at the same time. She is more free and confident, and also more depending in other areas. I had all my time consumed by her (she is starting kindergarden only next year), but now that I think about it, I managed to find a self-center, a bit of focus beside her.<BR/>It's completely true that you sound selfish... And you should! Happy moms make happy children. You need some time for yourself, even if little. So, try to get it. But on the way I have to confess... I secretly don't believe these super moms of 3 to 7 that manage to make other things. Really?Julie Alvarezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03186797770940729751noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-879844933286843280.post-60924116875237230252008-11-23T21:44:00.000+08:002008-11-23T21:44:00.000+08:00Don't worry. You'll feel better when your baby bec...Don't worry. You'll feel better when your baby becomes three years old.<BR/><BR/>Wish you happy in China!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-879844933286843280.post-56667331149631729182008-11-15T16:44:00.000+08:002008-11-15T16:44:00.000+08:00@Julie -- I'm glad I'm not the only one! Thanks fo...<I>@Julie -- I'm glad I'm not the only one! Thanks for the tip - I do need to learn how to distinguish between the real cries and the phantom ones. I'm getting a little better at it these days, so I have hope for the future! Glad that your daughter is sleeping well at night, what a blessing, huh?</I>~amy joy~https://www.blogger.com/profile/06193932664229930488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-879844933286843280.post-24391488923250458962008-11-11T22:59:00.000+08:002008-11-11T22:59:00.000+08:00Hello, I heard from you from maya*made. I just rea...Hello, I heard from you from maya*made. I just read this post. And I can assure you that phantom cries from your own child are the most real thing to a mother. I heard them millions of times over the past three years, since my girls was born. I got up from my bed many many times, and then learned to listen carefully from my own bed, without waking up, and to recognize the sound of the phantom ones different from the real ones. But they sound so real too! Now, I often hear them when I am in the shower, even if my girl doesn't cry at nights anymore... funny, huh? But you know, sleeping has never been the same to me since I have a child. I sleep fine, but not perfect. But luckily, the little one does...!<BR/>Good luck.Julie Alvarezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03186797770940729751noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-879844933286843280.post-37056303264202899602008-10-21T12:28:00.000+08:002008-10-21T12:28:00.000+08:00Goodness, Amy Joy, that was a lot of noise and con...Goodness, Amy Joy, that was a lot of noise and construction! It really helps paint a picture of your daily life along with your descriptions. Thanks for sharing!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-879844933286843280.post-56439942385841500362008-10-04T10:34:00.000+08:002008-10-04T10:34:00.000+08:00Hi Amy,Loved your blog writings. Hope you are feel...Hi Amy,<BR/>Loved your blog writings. Hope you are feeling better. You are the best mama to Liam! Give him a big hug and kiss from Grammy!<BR/>Love, MOMMOMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17545992526794377458noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-879844933286843280.post-50968442625836398482008-09-30T03:41:00.000+08:002008-09-30T03:41:00.000+08:00ha! So true about the Chinese! Dress warm or die! ...ha! So true about the Chinese! Dress warm or die! ha! Love it!Cassy Silvahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13844874192333618910noreply@blogger.com